Matthew Poole and continuators on 1 Timothy 3:4

4 One that ruleth well his own house , having his children in subjection with all gravity .

If he be one to whom God hath given a Family, one who hath given an experiment of his Conversation and Ability, to take care of a Church, by the care that he hath taken of his Family, and his ruling in that lesser Society.

One that hath not let his children behave themselves rudely, and indecently, and rebelliously, but kept them in order by a grave demeanour towards them.