Matthew Poole and continuators on Colossians 3:19

19. Husbands, love your wives , and be not bitter against them .

The Husband's duty is love, which the Apostle doth ever inculcate from the most obliging considerations when he speaks of this Relation, see Mat. 19.6. 1 Cor. 7.2. with Eph. 5.25.33. to sweeten on one hand the subjection of the Wife, and to temper on the other hand the authority of the Husband.

Who, that upon his authority he may not grow insolent, the Apostle forbids him frowardness with his Wife, thereby requiring a conversation with her, full of sweetness and amity: wrath and bitterness is to be laid aside towards all others, v. 8. with Eph. 4.31. much more towards his own Wife, in whom he is to joy and delight, Prov. 5.15, 18, 19. 1 Pet. 3.7.