Matthew Poole and continuators on John 2:4

4 Jesus saith unto her, Woman , What have I to do with thee ? mine hour is not yet come .

That it was ordinary with the Iews, speaking to Women, to call them by the name of their Sex, is plain from Matth. 15.28. Luke 13.11, 12. and 22.57. Ioh. 4.11, 12. But that speaking to their Relations, they were wont to own their Relation in their Compellation, sometimes is also evident, from 1 King. 2.20. Ask on, my Mother. So as our Saviours here calling the blessed Virgin, Woman, not Mother, is agreed by most, to signifie to her, that in this thing he did not own her as his Mother, and so clothed with an authority to command him. And indeed so much

the next words signifie, which is a form of Speech that both signifies some displeasure for her unseasonable interrupting him, and also that she had no right nor authority upon him in this thing. See the use of the same Phrase, Iudg. 11.12. 2 Sam. 16.10. Ezra 4.3. Matth. 8.29. and 27.19. None was more obedient and respective to his Parents, than our Saviour, Luk. 2.51. therein fulfilling the Will of God, Ier. 35.13, 14. but in the business of his calling, he regarded them not, Matth. 12.48. Luk. 2.49. and hath thereby taught us our Duty, to refer our Obedience to our heavenly Father, before our Obedience to any earthly Relation, Mat. 10.35. Luk. 14.26. He hath also hereby taught us, that the blessed Virgin is not to be preferred before her Son, (as the Papists do.)

Besides this, our Lord giveth another reason for his not present hearkning to his Mother; either, because the time was not yet come to work miracles publickly; or to shew her, that she was not to prescribe the time to him when he should work miraculously; thereby also shewing us, that for things in this Life, we are to submit our desires to the Divine will; and to wait Gods leisure; yet by this expression he also gives her some hopes, that he would in his own time supply this want.