John Trapp on Colossians 3:19

Verſe 19. Husbands love your wives] He faith not, Rule ever them, Subdue them if they will not ſubmit, but love them, and ſo win them to your will: make their yoke as eaſie as may be, for they ſtand on even ground with you, as yoke-fellows, though they draw on the left ſide. Yet is ſhe thy companion, and the Wiſe of thy covenant, Mal. 2.14. He therefore that is free may frame his choice to his minde: but he that hath choſen, muſt frame his heart to his choice.

Ʋxorem vir amato, marito pareat uxor: Conjugis illa ſui cor, caput ille ſuae.

And be not bitter against them] Nothing akin to Nabal, to thoſe Caldeans, a bitter and furious Nation, or to that ſtar, Rev. 8.11. called worm wood, that imbittered the third part of the waters. The Heathen when they ſacrificed at their marriage-feaſts, Plut. praec. cojug. uſed to caſt the gall of the beaſt ſacrificed out of doors.